Friday, September 22, 2017

Prostate Cancer Survivorship Gets Lonely

Have you ever been frustrated or angry by attempts made by healthy friends, colleagues, or family to "comfort" you? Does it seem the healthy folks around you are clueless about what you're thinking and feeling? 
Do your attempts to share your reality fall on deaf ears? Do you feel lonely or isolated? If so, read my blog on
Prostate Cancer News Today:

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Healthy Partners & Caregivers Face Enormous Stress

I'm embarrassed to admit I didn't spend a lot of time listening how the diagnosis of prostate cancer affected my wife. Even worse were the times I felt envious and jealous of her good health. I hope some men with prostate cancer can relate to this. Looking back it's undeniable I had bouts of extreme self centeredness.

In an article I wrote for Prostate Cancer News Today, I write about:

It's something I wish I knew and understood at the beginning of our journey coping with prostate cancer.

Coping With The Physiological Aspects of Being Worn

It doesn't matter how fit you were prior to your diagnosis of prostate cancer IF there are physiological reasons for your fatigue and feeling worn. In this article I wrote for Prostate Cancer News Today I address the ways in which we can regain some of out lost energy.
check out my article:
Coping With The Physiological Aspects of Feeling Worn.

Coping With Cancer Can Wear You Down

When you receive a diagnosis of cancer that's going to require some form of treatment, at some point in you journey you are going to feel worn out. The slightest expenditure of energy to do something simple like get up from bed or climb a flight of stairs can feel overwhelming.

There's lots of reasons for this life changing exhaustion. Lack of sleep, side effects of treatment, emotional, relational, or psychological stress, are all energy drainers.

Here's the link to the article I wrote for Prostate Cancer News Today about feeling worn out:
How to Coping With Cancer Can Wear You Down 

Friday, September 15, 2017

Prostate Cancer Isn't a Good Cancer

It won't be long in your journey with prostate cancer before you will hear someone say to you that your lucky because prostate cancer is "the good cancer." My first reaction to hearing someone say that was to write that person off by placing their name in a file that I keep in my head labeled "Stupid People."

They remained in the "Stupid File" until I was further along the good of grieving all the losses that treating cancer brought into my life. I had a lessening of my pain so I could extend those folks the benefit of the doubt by realizing two things:
1. They meant well
2. They were clueless and there was not point in holding that against them.

On Prostate Cancer News Today I wrote an article about this topic, explaining why prostate cancer ISN'T a good cancer.

Do You Think About Cancer Every Day?

For the last seven years as a cancer survivor, I've thought about cancer every day, many times a day. I kept waiting for the day when I'd stop thinking about cancer many times in the course of a day. After seven years, that day has never come. 

When I started asking cancer survivors how often they think about cancer, I discovered I wasn't alone. Most cancer survivors think about their cancer multiple times every day. That's when I began to understand it's not necessarily bad to think about cancer daily, it's what you think and feel as you think about your cancer. I'll give two examples:
1. Person #1 Thinks about cancer daily, wondering if it will return.
2. Person#2  Thinks about cancer daily with a sense of gratitude to be alive another day.

Both folks think about cancer daily with very different results.coping with cancer. I think EVERYONE needs to intentionally find ways to take well deserved breaks. Here's ten ways you can do that.
In my article with Prostate Cancer News Today 
There's ten ways to take breaks.


Saturday, September 9, 2017

8 Reasons Why Sexual Desire Is Reduced After Prostate Surgery

I don't know if this is going to work out. I'm experiencing technical issues reprinting my blog from Prostate Cancer News Today. For the blog I'm going to leave a link for the blog.

After successful double nerve sparing prostate surgery, I spent four miserable and frustrating years struggling with erectile dysfunction.


During that time I  discovered eight reasons why men withdraw from sex after prostate surgery, and the six sexual triggers men lose coping with ED, which fuels their shame, embarrassment, frustration, and anger. Discover how you can reclaim your sexuality here: