Sunday, November 6, 2016

Where do men get support coping with erectile dysfunction?

It's been estimated that erectile dysfunction is involved in the breakup of 25% of marriages that fail. One of the most frustrating things for partners to cope with is the anger and defensiveness of men who refuse to seek help. In addition to refusing to seek help, most men withdraw both emotionally and physically with their partner.

I'm asking men who are coping with ED to share what (if any) forms of help they've tried:
1. Consultation with a Physician
2. Talking with their partner
3. Joining an online ED forum
4. Attending an ED support group
5. Seeking advice, support & information from a friend or family member
6. Reading articles about ED online
7. Reading a book(s) about ED
8. Going at it alone without doing anything

If you've had a positive experience(s) seeking information, help or support please share the source and the results of that help.

If you've had a negative experience share that, and what you've done since that time.

If going at it alone has caused both you and your partner nothing but misery check out the book my wife and I wrote:
Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Erectile Dysfunction and Penile Implants

Monday, October 31, 2016

Don't Allow Erectile Dysfunction to Ruin Your Life

Men are stubborn creatures. When coping with erectile dysfunction their natural instinct is a flight or fight response. They'll withdraw from their partner. They'll get angry or defensive when their partner makes sexual advances or talks about the need to get help. If you are one of those stubborn men or a partner to one of those men, I have great news. You can receive effective help in the privacy of your on home.
Don't take my word for this, here's what an an Amazon reader said:

"The authors are professional in their field and their book shows it. Very well written, concise, informative, laced throughout with psychological, therapeutic and spiritual guidance, (Everything...) is a masterful journal, a handbook with extensive research, Q&A chapter endings, a lifeline for ED patients, and their partners, emotionally devastated by a future of permanent impotency and the threat of broken relationships.....
This book is highly recommended. It deserves some kind of literary award...a must reading for ED sufferers overcome with stress, shame, humiliation with no relief in sight."

Do yourself a favor, treat yourself and your partner with respect. Check out this link, search inside the book at no charge, read the reviews, then buy the book.


The Gateway to help Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Erectile Dysfunction and Penile Implants



Friday, October 7, 2016

My New Blog Site

Blog will no longer be blogging at this site. Here's the link for my new site:
My new blog location.

I made this change so I could have the opportunity to reach more people. The move accomplished that goal. On this site, each blog averaged a few dozen hits. On the new site my blog has hundreds of hits.

After careful consideration I've decided to blog in BOTH locations.

Tuesday, September 6, 2016

Indie book reviews of Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Erectile Dysfunction and Penile Implants

Reviews for EVERYTHING YOU NEVER WANTED TO KNOW… by Rick Redner From Indie Readers

1. really liked the outline and overall construct of this book from Rick & Brenda RednerIt was a practical read based on the author’s own life and personal and professional experiences and helps people to understand some ED issues better and hopefully help overcome challenges in dealing with erectile dysfunction, either personally or helping someone they may know who might suffer from it. I was surprised to learn many things about this topic, from the causes, to the fallouts (both physical and emotional) and was impressed that the book and overall tone was more ‘spiritual’ than I imagined it would be. I recommend it highly to anyone wanting to improve the value of their life if they feel surgery might be helpful for them, or even if they are just exploring options. It is a very engaging read because it’s not just lecturing or facts and figures (although there is plenty of useful info there too), but relatable stories and interesting scenarios where the authors breaks down their points and uses them in real situations that we can all easily understand and apply. I read the whole thing in one evening, and it was as eye-opening as it was informative. Oh and the editing/formatting was flawless. Great job! (5 stars)

2. No matter what you go through in life, it is always nice to know someone else has gone through it too, and can be extraordinarily helpful (and comforting) to hear of their journey and see what you can learn from it. I always go into books like this with a fair  bit of skepticism, wondering truly if there will be any new, insightful information brought to the table that isn’t some gimmick, total common knowledge (I call these the ‘duh!’ self-help books) or worse— an insult to my intelligence and common sense. So as I started reading “Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Erectile Dysfunction…” by Rick and Brenda RednerI was fully prepared to see the same red flags, set the book down and call it a night. (I never claimed to be an open-minded guy). So imagine my surprise as I started in with the reading and was struck by how real and informative and just honest it all seemed. I was especially interested in the relationship aspect and how it is a team effort – what affects you affects your partner as well. This isn’t just a ‘male’ issue. Also, there are so many different avenues to explore, and I appreciate how the authors lay out different scenarios and break down the pros and cons. The interactive questions were helpful as well, and while I won’t claim that everything in this book applied for me, I was impressed (to my surprise) with how down to earth and relevant it was. The information here will help many people if they listen to what the author is saying, and I can see urologists ‘prescribing’ this to their patients to read! (5 stars)

3. After reading this book by Rick and Brenda RednerI thought the best aspect of it was how it does such a great job of tackling a ‘taboo’ or ‘sensitive’ subject matter head on, tells it like it is, and helps to reduce (or even eliminate) and shame or fear or embarrassment one might feel if they suffer from any sort of ED. Clear and coherent chapters focus on different angles of handling the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual aspects of ED and recognizing how to best assess one’s own situation and steps on how to change it for the better.  I thought the whole book was excellently written and quite inspiring, and I liked that it actually gives some solid solutions that can make a huge difference in people’s lives. I was engaged the whole way through and felt the whole thing from the formatting to the editing to the information was very professional and delivers a valuable message. Recommend. (5 stars)

4. This is the first book I’ve read on this subject so I wasn’t sure what to expect, but even though this isn’t something I currently deal with in my life, I’m grateful that I learned more about this topic and have a deeper understanding for what millions of people go through, and perhaps it is a reality I myself will face one day too in a relationship. But this is a very good book to help understand about how others cope with erectile dysfunction, and the ins and outs, ups and downs (pardon the pun) of implants, and in that way we can relate it to ourselves and realize that we can do it.  Like I said, this isn’t my normal type of book, but I thought there might be something useful I could learn anyways and I was so right! It is inspiring and well-researched (with handy glossary, bibliography and index at the end)The authors have a natural writing voice that makes what they are saying very easy to grasp… and it is actually interesting stuff (not dry or boring or like a text book or something…) Recommend for adults only. (4 stars)

5. I found the articulate and engaging narrative style to be quite interesting and down-to-earth. I liked how the authors Rick and Brenda Redner uses their vast and well-researched (from personal experience as well as scientific)knowledge ‘story-style’ to make their points and relate ideas in ways that we all can fully and easily grasp. Very useful, well-written, and well put together. An important book with a clearly defined and easy to follow premise that can definitely help people who experience ED and either wish to understand it better, explore their options, or simply learn from someone who has experienced it, and what path they took to improve their situation. It is clear that the authors know what they are talking about, and fortunately are excellent writers as well. I have found that many times reading medical self-help books can either be frustrating because the author is too ‘highbrow’ and esoteric, or they just don’t present the material in a way that I feel I can relate to (or its condescending). I really appreciated the authors simple and direct approach and the clear steps and solutions they describe. While it may not be applicable to all, everyone can learn something and walk away with more knowledge than before. (4-5 stars)

6. This is a wonderful, very well-written and highly informative book! I have read several books on medical issues (physical and mental) and sometimes I get the sense that most are just recycling old information. This book it seems like I read a lot of new ideas presented in a way that makes a great deal of sense, even if might be perceived as somewhat ‘controversial’.  There should be no shame or stigma in erectile dysfunction, yet all too often it can be made a joke, or something that causes great distress emotionally and sexually. The content was professionally prepared, yet still friendly and intimate-feeling, and laid out in a coherent way that is easy to follow, but is meticulously researched and supported with solid evidence, scientific and anecdotalRick and Brenda Redner uses facts as well as real-life examples to share their perspectives on ED and ideas for solutions. Fast paced, informative, and easy to read, I recommend this book to anyone (adults) who are going through this struggle in their life or know someone who is. Each chapter gives valuable information, examples and sound advice to the readers, and is presented professionally from the first page to the last. (5 stars)

If you are coping with erectile dysfunction and/or want more information about penile
implants, check out this book
Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Erectile Dysfunction & Penile Implants

Friday, August 26, 2016

Radio Interview about Erectile Dysfunction & Penile Implants

My wife & I were interviewed on a radio show called Ready for Love. We spoke about our experiences with erectile dysfunction after my prostate surgery. Four years after surgery I was told I'd be impotent for the rest of my life. I went into a deep depression for many months until I stumbled on
the cure for impotence-penile implant surgery.

My wife and I shared how my long-term erectile dysfunction affected my self-esteem and our relationship.  We also discuss how penile implant surgery changed us individually, and as a couple.
This was very difficult for us to share publicly, but we wanted to get the word out. Here's the link:
Ready For Love Radio Interview

Scroll down and locate the postcast link and listen to the interview.

Monday, August 8, 2016

Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Erectile Dysfunction and Penile Implants-Readers Favorite Review

Professional book reviews are very important to authors. Of all the reviews I've received so far, I've used bold font to underline my favorite comment to date. In the subtitle of my book, I made a huge promise-to end silence, sadness, sorrow & shame. The reviewer believes I delivered on my promise! It doesn't get any better than that. Now it's up to me to find ways get the word out about one of the only books written by a couple who share their experiences with penile implant surgery. Here's the review:

Everything You Never Wanted to Know about Erectile Dysfunction and Penile Implants by Rick and Brenda Redner is a work that covers everything readers would want to know about erectile dysfunction. 

This book is highly informative and filled with tools not readily accessible to millions of people suffering from erectile problems. In very simple and beautiful writing, the couple shares their journey through erectile dysfunction and the life-changing lessons they learned. 

Rick was diagnosed and treated for prostate cancer at the age of 57, but the treatment left him impotent and it was some time before he knew that this was an unalterable problem. One could imagine the frustration, the despair, and the pain the couple experienced at the time. But slowly, the couple started asking questions that would lead them to the startling truths and facts offered generously in this book. Thanks to their research, collaboration with experts in the industry, and their diligent commitment to finding lasting solutions, they discovered the alternative solutions contained in this excellent book.

For many people, erectile dysfunction and impotence could mean the absence of a healthy and dynamic sex life, but the authors think differently. They offer alternative solutions that couples can explore in order to find their own way of enjoying a good sex life. The subtitle of this book reads: End Your Silence, Sadness, Suffering, and Shame. It is a huge promise, and what is astonishing is that Rick and Brenda Redner deliver what they promise in the title of their work in an amazing way. 

To help readers handle the frustration that could lead to ill health, as well as physical, psychological, and emotional pain, anger, and recklessness, the authors share their story with honesty and clarity, providing soul-searching questions that can help readers identify their most pressing concerns, create a new sexual language, and discover the solution that is best for them. Whether you are suffering from impotence or not, this book has a lot that will enrich the life of any couple.

Available at:
Everything You Never Wanted to Know about Erectile Dysfunction & Penile Implants

Saturday, August 6, 2016

Everything You Never Wanted to Know about Erectile Dysfunction and Penile Implants-SPR Review

In order to get the word out and give men and couples assurance our book about erectile dysfunction is worth both your time and money to buy, I'm going to post a series book professional book reviews.
Here's the first from Self Publishing Review. It's a four star review. If you want to read it directly from their website you can go here:
Book Review of Everything You Never Wanted to Know about Erectile Dysfunction & Penile Implants
For those who simply want to read the review, here it is:
"Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Erectile Dysfunction and Penile Implants by Rick and Brenda Redner is an informative and important book.
There are certain books that may be uncomfortable to pick up in a bookstore, or leave lying about on your coffee table, even if their subject matter is completely normal, and something that affects tens of millions of men around the world. Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Erectile Dysfunction and Penile Implants has a bold title that leaves little mystery as to the subject matter, but readers might be surprised by the value and insightful wisdom offered within this book’s pages.
Jointly written by Rick and his wife, a registered nurse, this book tells their story living through the extreme highs and lows of prostate cancer, survival, surgery, impotence, Erectile Dysfunction (ED) and eventually Penile Implants. While the subject matter may make some men quiver, the fact is that more than 200,000 men are diagnosed with prostate cancer each year, and more than 30 million men suffer from some form of Erectile Dysfunction – in the United States alone! As a man who walked through the fire alongside his wife, overcoming the undeniable difficulties and emotional insecurities associated with such a series of events, Rick Redner has a unique perspective coupled with a sharp and honest pen.
Rather than focusing solely on Rick Redner’s personal experience, the deep research into the subject is clearly apparent, and the authors write with an authority and surety that lends credibility almost immediately. The pace of the text is patient and encouraging, but not condescending or shame-inducing in any way. Despite the Rick Redner’s surgical choice to remedy his ED, this book does not attempt to sway any opinions or tell readers the “right” thing to do. Instead, it presents all arguments and perspectives, making the content accessible and engaging for a wide range of consumers, from men concerned with the future of their sexual health to those currently wrestling with serious ED issues.
Each chapter closes with a series of simple questions that allows for personal reflection on the content of each section, driving home some of the important points. These brief reviews also stressed actions or options that readers can take, rather than just blindly pushing forward into the next subject or topic. The book is clearly written with the intention of helping other people in mind. The thorough detail reveals the authors’ sincere passion and interest in the subject, given how significantly it changed their lives. What readers are left with is a sincere, insightful and supportive guide for couples and individual men who are facing similar struggles with these issues.
Part self-help book, part memoir and part specialized health guide, Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Erectile Dysfunction and Penile Implants attempts to normalize a common condition, and remove the embarrassment and shame that so often accompanies it. The writing is striking in its frank, delicate handling of complex emotions, and a positive attitude, revealing a true sensitivity within the authors and an inherent desire to write for the benefit of others.
The chapters were well organized and neatly edited, making it possible to pick up this book at any point in your journey and find something relevant to your current struggles or concerns. That said, the order of content also makes it function as a “start to finish” type guide, and the personal anecdotes mixed with straightforward advice and wisdom give the book a distinctly narrative feel. Rick Redner and his wife are talented writers and courageous survivors who are willing to share their experiences and readers should find value within them.
If you or someone you love is coping with erectile dysfunction, tell them about this newly released book.
Rick Redner